Back-to-School Tips: How Parents Can Help Their Child Succeed in School

Reviewed by Angie Hilken, LCSW, Clinical Supervisor

It's a new school year, and for many parents, the start of classes brings a mix of excitement and a little bit of stress. You've probably already bought the new notebooks, pencils, and maybe even a new backpack. But beyond the school supplies, the most important tools you can give your child for a successful year are a positive attitude toward education, a nurturing home environment, and a clear set of expectations. When kids feel supported, know what’s expected of them, and sense that their parents believe in them, they are better prepared to thrive academically and socially.

Here are some practical back-to-school tips for parents to help children succeed this year.

Getting Ready at Home: Setting the Stage for Success

Before the first day, it's a great idea to review some basic routines and expectations with your child. This helps them know exactly what to do and where everything goes.

• Establish a "landing zone": Decide on a specific spot for backpacks, lunchboxes, and water bottles. This makes it easy for your child to unpack and get ready for the next day without things getting lost.

• Create a homework station: Discuss with your child where they would like to do their homework. Involve your child in the decision. Ask: “Where would you feel comfortable doing homework?” Their input makes them feel more in control, fosters a sense of ownership, and motivates them.

• Consider background music: Believe it or not, some children find that listening to relaxing instrumental music helps them focus while they do their homework. You can try it out and see if it works for your child.
  

Laying the Groundwork for a Great School Year

Conversations about behavior and expectations are key. By having these talks early, you can set a positive tone for the entire school year.

• Talk about expectations: Discuss your expectations for their behavior at school. For example, what does being respectful to their teacher look like? What does using their manners mean? These conversations help a child understand what's expected of them and can prevent misunderstandings later on.

• Remind them of your unconditional support: Let your child know that no matter what happens during the school day, you will always love them. Reassure them that you're always in their corner to talk things through. This simple message of support can make a huge difference in how they handle challenges.

• Schedule a daily check-in: Find a comfortable spot in your home, maybe with a snack and no distractions, and ask them about their day. This can be a daily habit that helps you stay connected and provides a safe space for them to share. To get a more detailed picture of their school day, try asking some more creative questions.Positive questions: "What was the most exciting, fun, or unexpected thing that happened today?" "Weird" questions: "What was the most awkward, weird, or different thing that happened today?"

  
  

Asking about both the good and the not-so-good parts of their day shows that you're interested in their entire experience, not just the highlights.

Little Touches That Make a Big Difference

These small, thoughtful gestures can help make the first weeks of school feel extra special and show your child how much you care.

• Morning traditions: Let them pick the music playlist for the car ride to school. Or let them choose their breakfast for the first week. These small choices give them a sense of control and fun.

• Capture the moment: Take a simple photo of you and your child. No silly poses or matching outfits are necessary, just a picture that captures the moment. It’s a great way to show them you’re excited for them and look forward to seeing them at the end of the day.

• Leave a surprise note: Write a short, loving message on a sticky note and put it in their backpack or lunchbox.

• Mirror message: Use an erasable marker to write an encouraging message on their bathroom mirror so they see it when they get ready in the morning.

  
  

These small acts remind your child that they are loved and supported every single day.

A successful school year isn’t just about grades; it’s about connection, consistency, and encouragement. By setting routines, clarifying expectations, and reminding your child of your unconditional love, you’re laying the foundation for their success not only in school but in life.